February 6, 2014| Abusive Ex Has Become Family Friend...

Question: Am I wrong for not wanting my family and friends to become friends with my abusive ex, on social media AND in life?

Crystal's Answer: {Due to the sensitive nature of the question, I have paraphrased it.} No, you are not wrong. Abuse is an extremely serious thing. First, congrats to you on getting out of a horrible relationship. Now down to the real...

Friends and family really should not need reasons for not becoming friends with some one who intentionally and consistently hurt their loved one. It baffles me that anyone would think this is okay. Understandably there are situations where exes and family (even friends) remain in contact but that tends to happen when there was an already established relationship and without any detrimental effect to any party. This situation however, is not the usual. Abusers should be cut off completely, especially for the formerly abused sake and safety (I won't call you a victim, you are an OVER COMER)!

My suggestion: Talk to your loved one again, make it known that it hurts you and makes you highly uncomfortable. Let them know that their choice to willingly befriend some one who has made numerous attempts to end your life-- is also the choice they're making to move you out of their lives. If they say you are being extreme, let them know that "YES, IT IS THAT SERIOUS".